Think Again

Quotes

"It takes confident humility to admit that we're a work in progress. It shows that we care more about improving ourselves than proving ourselves. If that mindset spreads far enough within an organization, it can give people the freedom and courage to speak up."

"Being wrong is the only way I feel sure I've learned anything." - Daniel Kahneman

"My attachment to my ideas is provisional. THere's no unconditional love for them." - Daniel Kahneman

"The absence of conflict is not harmony, it's apathy."

"When I argue with someone, it's not a display of disrespect—it's a sign of respect. It means I value their views enough to contest them. If their opinions didn't matter to me, I wouldn't bother. I know I have chemistry with someone when we find it delightful to prove each other wrong."

Paradigm Shift

I loved this book. Seriously, I think it should be a must read for, well, everyone. Why? Because we (read, Americans) are too scared and wimpy to both care and disagree. Some of my favorite anecdotes in the book are around how the Wright brothers would sometimes come to blows as they discussed their ideas, and about how the writers of the movie Incredibles would argue, sometimes for years, around their ideas for their movies. 

Why is that so cool? Because they still like each other and their disagreements allowed them to achieve incredible goals. I love that. As Adam Grant describes in his book, I also see caring disagreement as one of the biggest signs of respect I can show for someone (see also the concept and book Radical Candor). This is because I care enough to have a difficult conversation in order to succeed together. If I didn't care, "I wouldn't bother".